Wolvden's Disabled and LGBTQ+ Community (17+) ALLIES WELCOME

Our disabled individuals and LGBTQ+ individuals all have one big thing in common.

A struggle for acceptance from our peers and family.

It's time to make a change and come together. 

Wolvden's Disabled and LGBTQ+ Community

A community where you not only feel safe but accepted and loved like family.

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Current Member Count: 42

Join! This is a very welcoming and open minded server! We’re all like family here!

This is awesome. I don't have discord, but f I did, I'd join. 

Our experience with this server was absolutely awful, a warning for anyone who may be interested in joining.

The server has very few roles, and they’re not exactly all-inclusive or open-minded like the post claims. The only pronouns are “ask”, “he/him”, “she/her”, and “they/them”. When I mentioned “it/its”, I was treated like I was calling people objects and told that “that’s what they/them is for”.

The server has NO roles for gender identity, not even one for being trans. Obviously none for enbies either, much less xenic people.

The roles that the server does have for sexualities are sparse, being only queer, bi, demi, ace/aro, lesbian, and gay, if I remember correctly. Maybe pan as well? There weren’t more than one or two more.

There is only one role for disabilities, which means it lumps everyone with disabilities under one label despite presumably being intended to be a safe space for people to connect and talk about their issues. Someone who is, for example, only hard of hearing, will have a different experience in life than someone who is neurodivergent, and if people want to connect with each other and feel recognized and included that’s… not a good way to do that at all.

When I suggested an overhaul of the roles to be more inclusive (including but not limited to: mlm/wlw/nblnb, aspec instead of “ace/aro” and demi, multispec instead of bi, trans, enby, xenic, agender-spec, and physically disabled, sensory impaired, neurodivergent, mood disorder, dissociative disorder etc.) I was told someone else had already suggested it*, and the co-owner said they didn’t find it “necessary”.

I was then told “that’s cute” because I was frustrated and dared to assume that the server owner would side with the co-owner on the issues, as well as expressed my dismay that the server didn’t seem inclusive at all. 

*The other user they were probably referring to was disabled — blind — and the disabled role option is specifically referred to as  “spoonie”, something that person wasn’t comfortable calling themselves because they didn’t have spoons. Them maturedly telling the co-owner that lead to the response of “but the disabled community has actually said that they do all call themselves that” (false). Again, this shows a lack of open-mindedness (despite the claims) and also that calling people only what they want to be called isn’t a priority in a server which claims to be LGBT+ friendly.

The server really only seems to care on a surface level about the people it claims to be for, and if you don’t fit that mold of what they think an LGBT+ person or a disabled person is like it seems like they don’t want you there at all.

Hello, thank you for your concerns with my server.

However, this review you have left appears to be fairly inaccurate. This member joined my server, and within minutes of joining asked me to "completely overhaul the roles." We have pronoun roles, these pronoun roles are what cover your gender identity, as it is not absolutely necessary that we list all of your personal information in our server.

As for the disability roles, many are uncomfortable sharing their disability with a lot of online strangers. We have a disability and ally role, as you can see in the screenshot below our role does not say spoonie, it says disabled. This is to prevent players from feeling pressure into sharing their disability online.

The reason you were told, "thats cute" is because you came into a discord with many people you did not know, and proceeded to threaten to leave if I didn't change the server entirely to your liking.

With all due respect, this is my server, run by two disabled, LGBTQIA+ members. The roles for pronouns were ask, he/him, she/her, and they/them, as we did not want to put too many as we have members with dyslexia among other chronic conditions that makes it hard to read through a long list of roles to choose theirs.

I'm sorry you were disappointed with this, however, we have our reasons. Have a good day.